The college admissions process is a unique time in the relationship between parents and students. Students are making one of the first big life decisions of their adult life; however, there are aspects of this decision that require parental participation–especially the financial aspect! This unique time can create tension in the relationship. If you are noticing this, realize that you are not alone! After hearing feedback from students and parents who have gone through this process, I want to provide a few tips and best practices.
- Instead of constantly talking about possible colleges and majors, set aside a few specific times throughout the week when “college chat” will be permitted.
- Plan fun trips and events unrelated to college admissions.
- Define your roles. I created a “Who Does What” checklist that I can send you. Send an email to me at ben@yoursubplot.com to request a free copy.
My advice? Don’t turn into this family! 🙂
Instead, have your kids do as much as possible. Involve them in every aspect of the process. There are some things parents or guardians must do (i.e. fill out the FAFSA), but overall the kids should be in the driver’s seat.
